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Our New Bundle and His Dramatic Story

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“Mrs. Flake, this is Dr. …, I hate doing this over the phone, but I need to tell you that your baby is very sick and there is a chance he is not going to make it.”  Those are the words I had to hear from a Dr. the day after Paxton was born.  I was in complete shock then went into a massive breakdown as you could imagine.

Let me take you back 4 weeks ago.  On Sunday September 2nd, Cullen and I put the boys to bed then watched a movie together. I joked saying, wouldn’t it be fun to have the baby on Labor Day?!  Well, that is exactly what happened.  We went to the hospital at 5am, early Monday morning.  I had contractions all night long and sure enough I was indeed in labor.  The nurse took my blood pressure a couple times and it was much higher than it usually was so they decided I could have Pre-eclampsia which meant I needed to be on a horrible medication called magnesium sulfate to prevent going into seizures.  Yikes. Great start, huh?

I thought, how bad could this medication really be…..well, it sucked….big time.  Has anyone else had to be on it?  Let’s just say, you feel like you have the flu and you have double vision, which was a total nightmare.  I’ll never forget trying to see what time it was throughout the day and I kept seeing 2 clocks on the wall.  You can’t focus on anything.  So…I had to be on that before delivery and 24 hours after.  Fun stuff 🙂

I immediately requested the epidural.  I don’t know what has changed in the last 7 years, but I could still feel my legs and thought, this can’t be good.  I am going to feel everything.  Sure enough, the epidural did not work that great.  I still felt the contractions most of the time.  Nightmare.  Ok, fast forward a few hours and Paxton was finally born at 4:22pm.  He was beautiful.  The pain I felt was gone as soon as he came.

They laid sweet Paxton on my chest for about 20 minutes.  He had the pulse ox on his hand so they could watch his oxygen level.  At first all was well, but the nurse was a little concerned that his oxygen level was a little low so she took him to the Dr. to get checked out further.  That was the last I saw Paxton at the hospital I delivered him at.  I had no idea what was ahead.

Within a couple hours I was told that Paxton needed to be transferred to another hospital that was more equipped to help his lungs.  I thought, ok this is just like what my 7 year old had when he was born.  Since they were both 3 weeks early, they needed help developing their lungs for a few days.  Boy was I wrong.

A few hours after they transferred Paxton, I got the dreaded phone call from the Dr. telling me how sick Paxton was and that there was a chance he wasn’t going to make it.  He needed to be transferred to Children’s LA Hospital immediately.  I could not even believe what I was hearing.  Could I really lose this sweet baby boy that was just laying perfectly on my chest the day before?  Needless to say I was a train wreck in my hospital room.  I was all by myself left with those horrible words going over and over in my head from the Dr. and I couldn’t stop crying.  It was uncontrollable.  I have honestly never felt so much heartache in my life.

Fast forward to the next morning.  My mom, dad and sister came in from AZ when they heard the news.  Thank goodness they came.  I desperately needed them. My mom stayed at the hospital with me and I got released Wednesday morning.  At this point Paxton was at Children’s LA Hospital, one of the best hospitals in the country that specializes in helping the sickest babies.

There is no one who could have prepared me for how I was about to see my sweet baby boy.

I will never forget walking through the cold NICCU doors for the first time seeing my sweet Paxton laying lifeless in his plastic little bed with tubes and wires over his entire body.  He was on a high frequency ventillator which shook his whole chest with air.  I had never seen anything like it.  It was horrible.  Paxton had what was called Persistent Pulminary Hypertension that they believe he got from an infection while he was being delivered.  Possibly from swallowing his meconium.  I was so confused and scared.

To make a long story short, Paxton was at Children’s LA for 2 weeks.  It seemed like an eternity.  I drove every single day for an hour and a half each way to sit with my little boy.  The nurses and Dr.’s were wonderful.  They taught me so much about the condition Paxton had and told me once he is better there will be no long term effects.  I was so grateful to hear this.

Cullen and I spent long days and nights in that NICCU room watching, waiting and sometimes sleeping.  I won’t miss this one bit.  After 2 weeks, the Dr.’s at Children’s LA decided Paxton was well enough to be transferred back to our hospital.  He had more healing to do, but was no longer in danger.

Once Paxton was transferred back to our hospital, his progress was better and better.  He quickly got off of his medication and we even got to hold him for the first time in 2 weeks.

 Can you imagine not holding your new baby for 2 weeks?!  It was so hard, but talk about a sweet moment when I got to hold him again.

On September 25th we got to take him home!  I have never been so grateful.  We could finally start our life with our new baby boy.  Mason and Brady were so anxious to have their baby brother in our home.  It was without a doubt the longest 3 weeks of our lives.

We’ve had Paxton home for 5 days and he is the sweetest little boy we could have ever asked for.  I am grateful everyday for him.  Through this whole experience, I received so many emails, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram comments from all of you praying for Paxton.  I am so thankful and grateful he had prayers coming from all over the country.  What a lucky little boy 🙂

Every time he falls asleep he smiles.  I can’t help but think he’s still in touch with the angels.  It melts my heart.  Thanks again for all of your support, we love you all!


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  1. 151

    I cried through that story! I cannot imagine having to experience that … the thought of hearing such a prognosis from the doctor makes me shudder. Thank goodness he is well and home with you guys. He is absolute perfection.

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    Lori says:

    Jenny, I had only started visiting your website for a few weeks before you had Paxton. I have a 7-yr-old boy, also w/ a picky palate, and I found your recipes to be delish and stories very relatable. I live across the country, have never met you, and was only connected to you through your online presence. However, I found myself constantly thinking about you and your family, and hoping beyond hope that there were any signs of improvement. My son also started going through your recipes and he included you and family in his prayers every night.

    Through it all, you were not alone. You may have been alone in your hospital room, but you and your little guy never left our thoughts. From one mom to another, I tip my hat for keeping everything together when it would have been very easy not to, and offer my heartfelt congratulations and hope for your strength to be replenished through those sleepytime smiles. 🙂

  3. 153
    Heather says:

    Jenny – it’s such a breath of relief to hear that Paxton is doing well. We went through something similar when my niece was born – I understand that terrifying time… I think it makes you treasure them much more. All the best to you and your new sweet boy!

  4. 154
    Carrie says:

    What an amazing story and so happy your sweet little boy is now home with your family, as he should be. Seriously, fighting the tears as I read this, as I am also a mommy of two little boys and had two very different labor/delivery experiences with both of them. I am so happy the angels have watched over you & your precious family! What a beautiful gift Paxton is and we’ll continue praying for you! Thank you Jenny for sharing such a heartfelt moment in your life! Lots of blessings! 🙂

  5. 155
    Kelly says:

    That is EXACTLY what we went through with my son – he’s almost 9 now! When I looked at the picture of Paxton laying in the little NICU bed, it was just like pictures of my Drew from 9 years ago. Those were the longest 13 days of my life. So glad to hear that Paxton is home and healthy!

  6. 156
    Lindsay says:

    My heart wrenched reading your story & I sincerely thank you for sharing it. You all were in my prayers although I the severity of his condition, it truly a miracle and God surely has him. What a precious precious boy. His smile is infectious and contagious. What a blessing your story and his will be to those you have already touched and will touch. Continuing to lift you up in prayer and pls continue sharing his pictures, along with your yummy food.

  7. 157
    Aubry says:

    So glad he is finally home and doing well! Congratulations again!

  8. 158

    What a horrible experience that must have been! I’m so glad sweet Paxton is home now and doing well.

  9. 159
    lauren says:

    What an incredible story! A dear friend in our neighborhood (farmington, ut) recently lost their 8-week old baby to a rare condition. Her story started out similar to yours, having no knowledge of any problems prior to delivering the baby. The baby was in the nicu for 8 weeks until they said goodbye to her. reading your story I wasn’t sure what the outcome would be… SO happy to hear that your little one is finally home and well. I am sure you’ve felt the love and support of your loved ones and RS sisters. For us, at least, it was a tremendous bonding experience for our ward. What an emotional journey for you. Extra kisses for our kids who are healthy, despite the toddler tantrums!

    thanks for sharing your story… all the best.

  10. 160

    You weren’t exaggerating when you said his “dramatic story!” Whew, you’re one tough mama! I’m so very glad everything turned out for the best and that little Paxton is home safe and sound. Your instagram pic brought me over here and I’m glad I read his story and that you posted it – scary but so wonderful to have a good outcome. Can’t get enough of that sleeping smile, either. 🙂

  11. 161
    Kimberli says:

    Wow, what a story and what a beautiful baby boy you have!! As a mom who was on Mag Sulfate and had an epidural that barely worked for 21 hrs of labor, I know exactly how miserable you were! As a NICU nurse, I know just how sick your little man was and I’m so glad to hear he recovered so quickly! I’m so glad your family is all under the same roof and you’re enjoying him – congrats!!

  12. 162
    Laurie says:

    what an incredible story! I had tears in my eyes! I am so glad Paxton is home now and that you are all together! Children’s Hospital L.A. is fantastic! I have special needs students who go there often and two of my friends used to work there as well. May Paxton be a blessing always to you and I look forward to seeing posts of him helping you in the kitchen just like Mason and Brady do now!

  13. 163
    Marie in Va says:

    So glad to hear our prayers were answered and your sweet baby Paxton is at home!

  14. 164
    Lynna says:

    Thank goodness everyone is home and well. Your baby is adorable and I`m so happy to hear he is safe.

  15. 165

    Wow! What an amazing story. Paxton is definitely a gift from God and his little smiles are the cutest.

  16. 166
    Erin B says:

    I’m so glad that your little boy is home and healthy. I could not imagine not being able to hold my boy for 2 weeks, your story brought tears to my eyes.

    Best wishes to you and your family in the future.

  17. 167
    Sue says:

    I had no idea you went through all this. I kept checking to see if there were any baby updates. I don’t know how I could have missed the news. I am just so happy that Paxton is home where he belongs and is doing well. Congratulations!!


  18. 168

    Your site hasn’t been updating on my bloglovin feed, so I had no idea. How amazingly difficult. So glad the sweet lil man is better and at home. I absolutely adore the pics of him smiling. Congrats. Take care.

  19. 169
    Kim in MD says:

    Oh Jenny, I have tears running down my face. How scared and terrified you must have been in those first few days and weeks! I am so happy that your adorable baby boy is home with you and your family, and is doing well. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.

  20. 170
    Patti says:

    Jenny,was very touched by your story and am so very glad that beautiful baby is home now!!

  21. 171

    I am sending tons of hugs to you, your family and sweet baby Paxton! I am so thankful that Paxton is home with you now!

  22. 172

    Oh, Jenny. I’m in tears, and what an incredible story. I’m so truly relieved to hear that sweet Paxton is doing so much better, and that you and your boys have him home now, where he belongs. I can’t even imagine how hard that must have been for you all, but I can feel your strength and courage through your words. Thinking of you all, and wishing Paxton all of the health and happiness in the world. xo

  23. 173
    Traci says:

    Jenny, your story touched me as I have gone through the same thing with 3 of my kids. They have all been six weeks or earlier and had some sort of lung infection that kept them in the NICU. There were times when I took them home from the NICU that I worried more–how I longed for those monitors beeping to let me know everything was okay! I worried so much once they came home. I didn’t have the support of the nurses telling me it was okay…now it was my job. However, you never know how fast you bond with them and how well you get to know them when they are in the NICU, even if you can’t hold them. It is weird.

    I am glad to hear that your little guy is doing well. It is so much fun (and even more chaotic, but in a good way) with three. I know both of ours have a significant gap in age, but I can tell you it is so much fun. I love watching my oldest two with my youngest. They are so sweet and are always thinking of her. Congratulations to you and your family.

  24. 174
    Libby says:

    Jenny!!! I finally just read all about your crazy story!!! I had heard bits and pieces, but didn’t know all that you went through til just now. I’m so sorry that you had guys had to go through all of that. He sure is a handsome little man. That little grin just cracks me up. He’s got big plans girl. Bummer that we never ran into you at Disney. One of these days we’ll have to meet up there:)xoxo

  25. 175
    Allison says:

    Oh my goodness Jenny! I have been so caught up with work and everything else in my busy house that I’m behind in blogging and even reading my favorite blogs and didn’t know that you’d had him so early!! I’m glad that everything worked out okay and that there won’t be any long term effects! Phew!! Enjoy your three boys! I’m sure that the older two will have so much fun with him! 🙂

  26. 176
    Ashley says:

    I’m so glad you made it through that rough start. He’s beautiful – congrats on your new addition 🙂

  27. 177
    Amy says:

    How in the world did I miss your birth story? Oh, sweetie, I am sitting hear crying for you and all you have had to go through. I am so thankful baby Paxton is home and safe and sound. I can’t imagine what you have been through! When you get a moment, please message me your mailing address. I want to knit a little something for your little cutie!

    PS- My cookbook arrived! SWOON! Jenny, it is BEAUTIFUL! I can’t wait to start cooking in it! So incredibly proud of you on the birth of yet another baby!


  28. 178
    lisa says:

    Jenny .. I have been following your blog for quite some time now happy I found your baby story post ..totally missed it ..thank goodness your little bundle is doing well scary for everyone to go through that ..I have 3 boys 16, 13 and my baby who is only 7 middle boy had a similar experience ..not as scary as yours ….congrats to you and your family and I am soo happy everyone is well!!

  29. 179
    Cheree says:

    What a scary experience. Praying that you guys can all move forward with your precious bundle with no more scares!

  30. 180
    Melissa says:

    I could be reading my own story, except for a more dramatic entrance (footling breech = c-section) and instead of the infection, my daughter had seizures. That was indeed the longest three weeks of my life and the scariest thing I’ve ever gone through. She is now four years old and has been weaned from all seziure medicines since Nov 2010 🙂

    Bless you for sharing your story and I’m glad that he’s doing better!

  31. 181

    I was referred to your blog by a friend and clicked on the link in your year-in-review post.

    Unfortunately I know what a scary, scary time that must have been for you all.

    Our youngest grandson came 5 weeks early, just like his older sister and was transferred to a children’s hospital in St. Louis, just like his older sister – supposedly to just get a little help with breathing since he came so early. We expected him to be there a week or less, just like his older sister. The day after he was born, my daughter got a call very similar to yours … T#3 was suffering from Persistent Pulminary Hypertension and had a pneumothorax from the high frequency ventilator. ECMO was the next step. Thankfully, like your little guy, T#3 is just fine … a 5 y.o. full of life and energy … but those 5 weeks in the NICU were the scariest time of my life.

  32. 182
    Sarah says:

    Cutest baby ever! So happy to hear the happy “ending” to this story of Paxton getting better and coming home with his family, where he belongs.

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    […] Can I just say that there is no way that my Pax is a year old already.  How does 365 days go by in the blink of an eye?!  One year ago today I was sobbing endlessly praying Pax would get to come home from the NICCU.  If you haven’t read what happened when Pax was born, you can do so HERE. […]

  36. 186
    Anne says:

    I just started following you and reading your blog and was truly touched by this story. I am so happy to know that your littlest man is doing well and thriving by the looks of it! I have 3 young boys as well and can’t imagine what you went through. God bless.

  37. 187
    Abigail says:

    I’m going through this right now…
    A little bit of a different situation, but a lot of the feelings and milestones are the same. We’re two weeks in and still have a long way to go. He was on a hifi vent, we didn’t get to hold him until just recently. The first time I held him was when he was born, but he was a limp body. He had no oxygen for 10+ minutes….
    Thank you for your story. It helps to give me hope…

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